There are some days when I feel that we are being bombarded with platitudes telling us to be grateful for what we have. There are endless quotes that say we need to remember what we have because there are people who have less. Well I am sick of it.
I am sick of being grateful that I have money because there are people who have less than me. There are people who can’t eat, who can’t have the things that I have. I am better off than the people below me I am told.
I am sick of being grateful that I have a roof over my head because there are people who would give their right arm to have a house. There are people who live on the streets and never know where there next meal is coming from. I am told to be grateful that I have neighbours to complain about.
I am sick of being grateful that at least I only have a mental illness and I am physically well. I am told that depression isn’t so bad, there are people who have it worse. What do I have to be depressed about?
I am sick of being grateful that I have a child. There are people who would love to have a child. I am sick of being told that I should relish all of the bad times as well as the good times because I will miss them.
I am sick of being grateful that I can afford private psychiatric treatment. There are other people who are at the mercy of the public system and the treatment that they can afford to give. I am told to be grateful that I have this opportunity, that I can’t be too bad off if I can afford the treatment.
I am sick of being grateful that someone has chosen to love me. I have Borderline Personality Disorder, a turbulent past and I’m not always a joy to be around so I should be grateful that anyone even wants to spend time with me. I am told to settle, at least there is someone willing to go the distance, because obviously I am nothing more than a sum of my symptoms.
Most of all, I am sick of being told that expressing my feelings means that I am being ungrateful. I am sick of feeling guilty that I am not 100% happy with my circumstances. Sure, gratitude isn’t always a bad thing, it does help to remember the things that we do have. However that gratitude shouldn’t be used to make someone feel guilty, that their feelings are less valid because there is someone who has it worse than them. After all, telling someone to be happy because someone has it worse is like telling someone to be sad because there is someone who has it better.
Are you sick of being grateful too?
Do you think the idea of gratitude has been overdone?
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