During the interview I did last week for ABC Capricornia I talked about keeping up the self care that enables you to keep mentally well. While that was in regards to people with a mental illness, I think that these tips can be helpful for all parents.
Take time out.
Time out isn’t just helpful for kids, even parents need it sometimes! Even if it’s an hour while you get a massage, do something for yourself. It helps to recharge your batteries and come back to parenting with a more clear head.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help.
This is probably one of the most important tips for parenting. Asking for help when you feel overwhelmed can make you feel like you have failed as a parent, but I think that you are strong for acknowledging that you need help. I’m not saying that you need to scream it from the rooftops (unless that’s your thing, then totally for it!) but just let someone know.
Make plans to regularly leave the house
I hadn’t realised just how important this one is until recently. Mr 5 and I had gotten into a slump of not leaving the house because I was just too damn tired to do it. Since we have gotten his sleep under control (now I just need to work on mine!) I am making an effort to leave the house more often. Even if it’s just a trip to get some milk, leave the house.
Even if you aren’t leaving the house, get dressed.
Whenever I stay in my pyjamas I seem to feel worse for it. It’s harder to get motivated to do anything when you are still in your pyjamas. On bad days, I find even the simple act of getting dressed helps me feel a bit better about myself.
Step away from the social media.
I don’t mean give it up completely (unless that works for you) but do take some time to take a step back every now and then. I find when I get too investing in what is going on online, I neglect every thing else in my life and I start to live my life through the online world. While social media can provide a much needed place of support, it’s important to set boundaries.
Do something you love, just for you.
It’s so easy to get caught up in all things child related that you begin to lose who you are as a person, not just someone’s mum or dad. It can be absolutely anything, as long as it makes you feel good. Blogging is that thing for me, even though I do talk about Mr 5 on here, it’s still something I can do apart from him.