Did you know that knitted into your subconscious are beliefs about yourself, about the things that you deserve/need and without you even realising it you seek out things that help to prove those things as absolute truth? These thoughts are called our Core Beliefs, and are often developed in those extremely crucial years before a child turns 5. Although a major change in a person’s life can also alter their core beliefs, or add extra ones that become more prominent.
A core belief has the potential to impact on a person’s life both negatively and positively. These beliefs go deeper than what we determine to be our values and it is often the case that a person may not even realise the effect that these core beliefs have on the way they interact with those around them.
I have recently begun working on core beliefs with my psychologist and it has been interesting for me to determine both what my more prominent core belief is and then to notice the impact that it has had on my life up to this point. One of the things that we are working on is creating new core beliefs, of which are the opposite what I subconsciously believe about myself. It’s kind of like positive thinking, although I do feel that it is less wishy washy than that.
The most interesting thing that I have discovered about core beliefs is that through these thoughts, we then go about our lives seeking out people and examples of how this core belief is true. So if your core belief is that you are stupid, then you seek out things that have happened in your life that prove you to be stupid. You forget about the things that prove that you aren’t, it’s like a negative seeking missile in your mind!
Getting to my own core belief wasn’t an easy process. It wasn’t a simple case of just coming up with something that I knowingly think about myself, as core beliefs are often so deeply entrenched in our being that we don’t realise we are subscribing to the belief. My psychologist worked through a series of ‘I think this because’ word play until we got to the heart of the beliefs that I hold.
At the moment I have one core belief to work on, and it’s hard. There’s been tears more often than not in therapy but I do feel like I am moving forward. Even admitting out loud what my inner most fear/core belief was, was hard. The belief has a catch 22, with admitting out loud what it was, that I would have that core belief realised, that the person I told would tell me that what I believed about myself was in fact true. Maybe I’ve been ready to give it up for longer than I realise.
Have you heard of core beliefs before?
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