This week the prompt for I must confess is ‘I don’t understand…’. I was going to link up an old post I had written about same sex marriage and the people who oppose it. However something else has been bumping around in my mind for a little while now. Then last week Near As Dammit’s post pushed it to the forefront. The thing that has me perplexed at the moment is the bubble that is school.Jessie’s post shared the story of her son and how he was punished for retaliating after being repeatedly punched by a much larger boy. The education department has stated that they have a zero tolerance policy to bullying, and that this includes physical violence. On the surface this seems like a good idea.
We teach our girls to love their body as they are. In a time when young girls are bombarded with images of the *perfect* body, we are teaching them that they need to love themselves. We teach them that wanting to change something they are born with means that they don’t love themselves. We tell young girls that looks don’t matter, but then promote campaigns that show *real women* without make up.
*The following post discusses self harm. Please ensure that you are in a safe place mentally before reading. If you are feeling unsafe please ask for help. Lifeline 13 11 14, a friend, your GP.*
People with struggle with self harm urges often use various distraction techniques to help ward off the distressing thoughts. Sometimes it is about getting through the next minute, then the next. One of those techniques is often social media. However social media, and the internet in general can also hinder efforts to distract yourself.
The media has a strict set of guidelines for the reporting of content that viewers/readers may find distressing. A warning is given before the story, informing consumers that the following content is graphic in nature. These warnings are used for articles about suicide, mental illness, drug abuse and violence. Numbers for helplines are posted at the end of the stories, urging those who have been affected by the proceeding story to seek help. However no such warning is in place for fictional stories, either in print or film.
On social media lately I have been noticing an influx of posts about ‘keeping it real’ aimed at women. These posts have always been there of course, but I seem to be taking notice of them a lot more. I think it’s possibly because they are getting under my skin, we all know that the more we think about something, the more we notice it happening around us.