A few weeks ago a discussion started on a friend’s status update about the stupid things that crisis line workers had suggested when we were in crisis. It was the catalyst for a rant to Paul about the unfairness of relying on other people to help you when you were feeling vulnerable. It spilled into conversations with my psychologist about how I now use having to deal with crisis lines as a deterrent for self harm.It was through these conversations that it hit me just how unbalanced the power is when it comes to a person with a mental illness. This imbalance spills into other parts of their life as well. Their physical needs are often written off as symptoms of a mental illness. Chest pain is a panic attack, stomach pain is anxiety, an allergic reaction is depression (this one happened to someone I know!).
Have you perused the comment section of a parenting site lately? I know, I know, don’t read the comments but we all do it. One thing that has become glaringly obvious to me is that the childless aren’t allowed to have an opinion on parenting styles. It needs to stop.
One thing that I have learned since I started blogging is that for every post telling you not to do something, there is just as many posts telling you to go for it. There are posts telling you to lighten up and posts telling you to write with more feeling. There are posts telling you to stop writing for free, and there are posts telling you that accepting payment is the worst thing you can do. Then there is everyone in between who is just trying to make sense of it all. A few weeks ago a post did the rounds which said that all Mommy blogs sucked. This isn’t a new thing. Traditional media hates on digital media, including blogs on a regular basis. This post in particular though stung a little too much. Maybe it stung a little too much because it came from inside the ranks. Or just maybe it stung a little too much because the writer used her own experience to tar an entire blogging community.
Right now, thanks to an article doing the rounds in local media, baby sleep experts are up in arms because Crying it Out (CIO) has been supposedly given the big tick. The study is quite limited, and hasn’t really shown that crying it out is better long term. It has simply proven that it works quicker than other methods studied. That’s not my beef though. I have an issue with the black and white thinking that you are either loving your child by not doing CIO or you aren’t be a loving parent if you leave them to cry.
Last week Annette from I Give You The Verbs created a stir. She called for an uprising against the current state of things in the blogging community. What on earth do we have to fight against you ask? Well it appears that things have gotten a little cookie cutter around here. Creatives are being stifled by the need to be useful, getting caught up in the must dos and the forbidden. Today it has been exactly 5 years since I started this blog. It doesn’t feel like it has been that long at all. The landscape of the blogging community has changed so much over that time. A lot of what I learned was from muddling through on my own. There were limited conferences, podcasts or information sessions. So much of the information was targeted to an oversees market.