Feminism has been in the spotlight a lot lately. There appears to be two camps. Those who believe that we have a long way to go, and those who think we’ve already made it. Of course this is a simplistic way of breaking the issues down because there are many shades of grey amongst those two camps. However the issue that I want to talk about is firmly in the ‘we still have a long way to go camp’.
I have noticed, and really it’s nothing new, that it almost appears to be a right of passage for a female to hate her body. Like I said, it’s nothing new. Women have been doing it for decades. However one thing that I have noticed is that increasingly women are doing it because it’s the ‘done thing’ rather than because they actually believe it.
We are taught that we need to believe in ourselves. We are taught that we become what we think and say, that we need to be positive, whether we believe it or not. They why are we allowing our girls to believe that it’s totally normal to poke and prod at our bodies trying to find the parts of that we hate.
You know what I am sick of? I am sick of people, of all shapes and sizes, posting pictures of themselves on social media with captions that depict the hatred they have for their bodies. I don’t care if you are a size 8, 18, or 28…stop posting about how fat you are. Stop hating your body for the world to see.
To the people who comment on these photos…stop feeding the beast. I know that it is hard when you see a friend or family member who you love to death posting about how much she hates herself. I know that you want to build her up, to be the voice of support.
However it is my belief that through the comments of ‘OMG you are beautiful’ etc, that it starts the never ending cycle of compliment fishing. It’s this fishing that enables our girls, the girls who are looking up to us, to think that it’s OK to hate their bodies, that it is completely normal to do it.
Right now, I am not impressed with how my body is. I don’t see the point in posting pictures that I am not happy with, and captioning it with how much I hate myself. Maybe the women who do have more going on. However I think the first step is to stop posting pictures and expecting other people to continually boost your self esteem. That needs to come from within for it to last.
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