Readers, I have a bit of a dilemma and I am hoping that you will be able to offer some advice. If you are a regular reader around these parts then you will know that I have a 4 year old. He is boisterous and cheeky but that’s not my issue. He also sleep dodges with the best of them, and I have kind of resolved myself to the fact that maybe I have a child who just doesn’t need as much sleep as the rest of us (why me!?) so that’s not my issue either. My problem is that he refuses to say hello or goodbye to people.
This isn’t about stranger danger, I don’t force him to talk to people if he doesn’t know them. The message gets a little confused at this age if I tell him not to talk to strangers and then make him have a conversation with someone he doesn’t know. He flat out refuses to say hello or goodbye to anyone, myself and and his father included. I feel like hiding under a rock every time it happens, thinking that surely people must think that I am raising a rude child.
I lead by example and say hello and goodbye to people. Mr 4 is very stubborn (can’t think where he got that from, must be his father), and the only way we got him to start using please and thank you is not by telling him what to say, but by using the question ‘what do you say’. We have tried this with with greeting but unfortunately it hasn’t worked. He refuses to say it to friends, his daycare teachers, family and anyone who he has regular contact with.
Does anyone have any suggestions for ways to coax him into saying hello and goodbye? Is this something that anyone else has experienced with their own kids and they grew out of? Am I doomed to always have a child that is a little bit of a snob?
Linking up with Kirsty from My Home Truths for I Must Confess.