This morning Mia Freedman posted this article about Kim Kardashian, slamming her for posting a photo of herself in a swimsuit with a bit of side boob and her arse in the air, all while being a mother. Personally, I have seen more flesh at my local shopping centre but that’s not the issue.
I am in two minds about the photo. On one hand I think if I had a body as rocking as hers so soon after giving birth then I would be getting around half naked too, but on the other I worry about that maybe she is contributing to the cheapening of women’s bodies in the celebrity world. Then I thought about it some more and came to a completely different conclusion.
It’s not my body. Let me explain. There is outcry upon outcry about young women in the entertainment industry cheapening themselves by showing off their sex appeal. Cries of how they are letting down the sisterhood by using their physical assets to make a buck. These celebrities are called whores, sluts and a plethora of other derogatory names intended to shame the target. However, as a friend said to me, they are only responding to demand, sex sells. It has for a long time and my guess is that it will for a long time into the future.
What does that mean for body image? It means that we need to take responsibility for our own actions. We can’t force anyone to act the way that we deem is acceptable, it breaks basic fundamental human rights. What we can do is be the example we want the world to be. Show the young women in our lives that you can be physically attractive and intelligent. A woman doesn’t need to dumb themselves down to appear more attractive.
We want the women of today to love their bodies, but in the next breath there is body shaming because a woman doesn’t adhere to a societal constraint of what a woman, a woman who may also be a mother, should dress like. You can’t have it both ways. No one, except Kim Kardashian, knows why she chose to post that photo on her Instagram. Who are we to judge? If she did post it because she felt it was the only way to receive praise then maybe she needs more people in her life who respect her brains as much as her looks. Or more simply, maybe she just posted it because she looks hot..and I have to say she does!
As a mother to a boy, I also feel that is is my job to teach him that women deserve respect, regardless of what their physical attributes may be. A woman who posts photos of herself in provocative poses is no less deserving of respect than any other woman. A photo of a woman that shows her breasts or arse, is not an invitation to leave lewd comments and I hope that this a message that he will also pass onto his children.
Body image, it starts within yourself. Shaming and judgement does nothing for another persons self esteem. While there is still a culture of slut shaming, the body acceptance movement will be stagnant.
What do you think of the sex sells image? Do you think that celebrities need to set a better example or are we just shifting the blame?