Troll, hater, bully. All words that are thrown around the internet on a regular basis. Too often if you ask me. More and more I am seeing the words used when someone has a differing opinion to another person. This opinion usually strays from the norm.
‘Hater’ however seems to be used predominately by women, usually when a friend of theirs is faced with someone who disagrees with something they have said or done. Contrary to what the use of the word suggests, it is not something that is restricted to teenage girls. People who use the word ‘hater’ are usually under the assumption that the disagreeing party must surely be jealous. One of those times that to assume really does make ass out of u and me.
This train of thought has really brought the standard of online discussion to a new low. The minute you voice your opinion on something, you should expect that there is going to be at least one person who is going to disagree with you.
The simple act of disagreement does not make a person a troll, bully or hater. Someone who sees your opinion and asks you questions about it, or presents their counter opinion is not doing it because they hate or are jealous of you. It is only once the argument dissolves into personal attacks or name calling that a person is being a bully. A person who can debate a topic well attacks the facts not the messenger.
Writing a blog leaves a person open for all kinds of differing opinions. Having this space comes with a price, the minute I hit publish it becomes my words, shared with the world. I have to be completely behind these words, believe in them 100% to be able to hit publish.
My words may be different from yours, my views a little more skewed, but that doesn’t make them any less valid. Don’t feel sorry for me because I disagree with your point of view, it’s just that, an opinion. Don’t feel sorry for my child because he has a mother who has conviction in her words. I am teaching him that it’s ok if you don’t agree with someone, just do so respectfully.
There are so many opinions in the world, no two people think exactly the same. The world would be a pretty boring place if we did. A difference of opinion is not offensive but calling someone a derogatory name for having one is. How do I know I have won an argument? When the other person stops using facts and resorts to childish name calling.
Do you think the art of discussion is lost?